"Fantastic
Relationships"
Helene
Rothchild. MS. MA.
{Are you feeling frustrated in your
relationship?
Do you find that no matter how hard you try,
there is often disharmony between you and your
loved one?
Are you ready to have the fantastic
relationship that you deserve?
As a practicing Marriage, Family and Child
Therapist, I have helped many couples experience
the loving partnership that they deeply desired.
The clients were successful in raising their
self-esteem, healing old hurts with other loved
ones (especially Mom and Dad), releasing their negative
beliefs about relationships and improving their
communication.
I noticed that the clients often had similar
needs, and did not know how to express their
desire in a positive way. In order to help them to communicate, I gave each
client the following list, and asked them both to
check-off what they wanted to say to their
partner.
Then the clients exchanged their list, read what
their lover requested and then expressed weather
thy were willing to give them what they wanted.
Most of the time, because they loved each other
and really wanted their partner to be happy, they
were more than willing to do what was requested. In fact,
they shared how glad they were to receive clear
messages. To help you have the fantastic relationship you
desire, you may want to do the same with your
partner. Take the time to check off what you both want,
and give each other the gift of communicating
constrictively and honestly.
DEAR LOVE,
Please:
1. Communicate clearly so that I
can know how you feel and what you want.
2. Listen to me when I talk to
you, and then I will want to keep sharing my
thoughts and feelings.
3. Keep clearing your
resentments with me so that we can continue to
feel close.
4. Release your anger
constructively and then tell me calmly what you
are angry about or if you feel hurt or frighten.
5. Help me solve our problems
with win-win solutions.
6. Keep your agreements and tell
me the truth so that I can trust you.
7. Take responsibility for all
your feelings and behavior.
8. Forgive yourself for all your
wrongdoings and accept that you deserve a
fantastic relationship.
9. Accept me the way I am even
though I may be different than you.
10. Understands that what I say
or do is a reflection of me and not you.
11. Be patient with me, and
forgive me when I make mistakes
12. Realize that I am
responsible for my life
13. Encourage me to explore my
unique interests, talents and potential.
14. Spend quality time with me,
and then I will be convinced that I am important
to you.
15. Treat me as you would your
best friend.
16. Compliment and appreciate
me, and tell me how much you care.
17. Understands that I may need
harmony before I can be sexual with you.
18. Balance your life between
work and play and encourage me to do the same.
19. Continue to seek excitement,
fun and the magic of life with me.
20. Love me
unconditionly.
Thank you for hearing me. I love you!
Helene Rothchild, M.S., M.A. is a Marige, Family,
and Child Therapist, Teacher, Speaker, and
Author.
You may contact her at: Helene@Sedona.net
or (520) 282-3032. }
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